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My Relationship Non-negotiables

By Tiffy · 05/12/2025

Okay, some people might call it “high standards.” I call it “basic human decency.” But apparently, it’s also the reason my love life is a series of great conversations with my ChatGPT. So, here we go! (Edited by Haji for more transparency on Tiffy’s love life because she is a liar)

  1. Just Say It. (No, Really.)
    If you like me, use your words. If you want to see me, make a plan. If not F OFF my IG DMs. (She’s not gonna play that yearning game with you.)
  2. Lose the Ego
    That “alpha male” toxic masculinity bs? Yeah, not for me. (Unless you have a beard, and are tall, and handsome and look like Chris Evans.)
  3. Don’t be stingy.
    I’m not asking for a private jet. I’m asking you to grab the bill on dates without doing mental math. (She wants you to pay, every single time, because she is the moment.)
  4. SMELL NICE.
    This should not be a revolutionary concept. Shower. Use deodorant. Put on some perfume? (She wants you drenched in perfume so it would stick to her clothes.)
  5. Emotionally stable.
    I can be really crazy sometimes, so I need you to be the calm in my storm. Hand me a coffee and say, “Breathe. It’s gonna be fine.” (Your peace is her peace and her crazy is yours.)
  6. Action >> Words
    Anyone can say “I’ve got you.” Remembering my favorite snack, fixing that wobbly shelf, just showing up. Talk is cheap. Actions are priceless. (What are you doing if you don’t have a file full of her favourites.)
  7. Just… Be a Good Person.
    Hold the door. Be kind to the server. Listen. Support my weird goals. It’s not being a “simp”—it’s being a decent human. (She wants to be the simp.)
  8. Communicate… Like an Adult.
    If you’re upset, tell me. If you’re happy, tell me. Clear communication is the glue that holds everything together. (She will communicate. You need to listen.)
  9. Be Someone I Can Actually Rely On.
    If you say you’ll call, call. If we make plans, keep them. Consistency is the ultimate green flag. (This is a dictatorship. Know your place.)
  10. Have a Spark.
    Be passionate about something—your job, your hobby, your dream. Ambition is crazy attractive. (Make money or aspire to have Chris Evans’ build.)

So yeah, that’s the list. Maybe it’s long, but every item is non‑negotiable. I’d rather be happily single than settle for less. Period. (She meant every word.)